
Guess who's going to China. One of my clients has a biennial meeting in Beijing from September 24 - 29th. Sonia and I head out next Sunday, so we'll have just over a week to explore the city before "work" begins. Unfortunately, my vacation day cupboard is barren, so it will have to be a very frugal trip to make up for not being paid for a week. I think it's worth it.
While ordering gifts for some of the Local Organizing Committee members I learned something interesting about Chinese culture. Apparently, they don't give clocks as gifts (which is really too bad because the clocks they were going to receive were really quite cool). One of my co-workers who grew up...somewhere in China or in a territory, was kind enough to offer the following advice:
"Here are some interesting things that you may enjoy knowing:
Clocks are definite NO NO for birthdays and as gifts to the elderly. I would just avoid it.
Gifts should never be wrapped on white paper and cards should not be written in red ink on white paper.
In case we do go back to the 80’s fashion, a white head band worn on the forehead is only for funerals (close relatives).
If giving gift cards, try to pick a colored envelope instead of white.
No mention of any type of sad news during someone’s birthday.
The number 4, which is pronounced “si”, sounds like the word “death” and is perceived as not a good number.
#8 is a good number as it is pronounced “ba” which is close “fa” for “fortune”.
When people pour you tea, tap tap the table with two fingers next to the cup. It is a way to say “thank you” (does not really matter how many fingers, but most use two =).
When ordering a whole fish for dinner, don’t flip the fish to get to the other side. Remove the spine/bone from top to get to the bottom flesh.
Do not leave your chopstick standing (i.e. in your rice bowl) as it mimics an incense ritual (done in funerals and to worship Gods). [<-- Same in Japan]
Burping and spitting are acceptable.
Unless you want to try, know that “special meat”, “aromatic meat”, or anything described as such means dog meat. You can tell if you are standing next to a roasted pork or dog by looking at the toes (sorry, don’t mean to gross you out, but I thought I’d tell you).Traditions and beliefs vary from region to region, but those above are applicable to most. I am sure that most Chinese know not to expect people outside the culture to know all the traditions, some of us, like my mom does not care about most of them. My in-laws have traditions we never heard of, so do not worry about it too much.
Something to try, fresh stretched noodles made on demand. It is an art and it tastes so good!
Hope you have fun!"
Thanks Dina. We'll try!